You guys get to screw whomever however many and walk around like its a badge of honor. Dude dont date her you are judging her for her sexuality just leave the poor chick alone shes going to end up resenting you and feeling disgusted with herself because of your guilt trips and attempts to shame her for who she is. To people who have had sex with too many people: It is You dont think there are alpha women out there? And, we've all sinned a lot. We allow the wrong things to interfere with our ability to give and receive love. forgotten how to be committed. You see great qualities in everyone, and then you continue to look for them in others. have the ability to make the best choices for herselfimpulse control My girlfriend of 8 months told me in the beginning of the relationship she had only been with 2 other men which were her past relationships. LoL! Anything you know is toxic? You are correct that you cant do anything about the man before you being bigger but I most certainly believe you can still be better. I agree with that statement, I do not agree that this is due to a high number of sexual partners. Not for who they once were and no longer are. I personally would have never dated a guy who has slept around a lot. Some women can be a virgin and have all kinds of issues due to other experiences in their life, while a woman may have once been promiscuous, turned away from that and now is in a much better place mentally and emotionally. Well sir, my past should not matter. Well it certainly does which really makes these women very Pathetic. Say what.. youre incel? Hallelujah!!! Months later she reveals that she many years ago she was promiscuous but since then has walked away from that approach to sex and shares the same values as you right now. 2) men and women are wired differently. Only how he chooses to receive that number will things now change. What if I through a monkey wrench to your logic by saying that this said slut you speak of was forced into prostitution when she was young, and therefore slept with a lot of men? I slept with the majority of these guys between the ages of 18-21 but now that Im in a different place I dont have sex as freely. Men get to play while we sit at home waiting for our love? too many people: Remember that there is a good chance your lover feels guilty After my grandmother died things werent the same. It is what it is, but the most important part is your STD FREE!!!!! Life. Women want a guy who wants a woman to love and respect herself to value a As you stated, it ultimately shouldnt affect the current situation. And guess what? Yes, this is the incident Dave Chappelle mercilessly ridiculed on his Comedy Central show in 2003, but you have to remember there was a real 14-year-old girl in that video, according to her. We all make judgments all the time. So lets be perfect in a less than perfect world and provide a few undeniable examples: Your RENT is due and it is $800 and you only have $620Do you have the right or wrong amount??? Plus you want someone who loves you for who you really are and you will never She obviously had not displayed any of the 5 issues you laid out (at least she hasnt shown it one bit). Yes he was obviously more attractive than you, 'Just have girls asking you for 3somes, why isn't every guy doing this? It has been made apart of this life, but not apart of eternal life..We have one teacher here that JESUS and HE knows more about the subject than you do.In The Book of Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: Imperial House, 2nd Floor, 40-42 Queens Road, Brighton, East Sussex, BN1 3XB, Taking a break or withdrawing from your course, Official Dental Hygiene and Therapy (Oral Health Science) 2023 Entry Thread. Ill be damned if I am going to kiss, have intercourse with this woman knowing or not knowing that the previous partners still lingers in there. What matters is if there is real love between two people. Trust that she learned from them, and did the best she could with the information she had at the time. Ok. You can choose to believe what you want, naturally. Men should realize that a low number of partners You could be killing yourselves with every partner you take. The raw numbers are there for anyone to see, and as anyone can see, there is a strong and direct correlation between number of partners for the woman and likelihood of marriage failure. I, of course, agree that other factors contribute to failed marriage. And they be passing around STDs. while there certainly can be concerns about patterns of behavior, don't let those feed your insecurities. Too many people use the fact that this woman has slept with a certain number a men that they personally deem too high as validation to dismiss this woman as a potential mate or a future great wife. Just keep going forward. Youve literally dated so much that your idea of a great person is flawed. in order to let me know she is relationship material, yet shes slept with 100 people, well.I wasnt born yesterday. For former redpillers and others who recognize the damage caused by redpill. Yes, men are allowed to sleep with married women but women cant do the same with men. I hold men and women to the same standard. People learn and grow from their experiences. It is actually a fact that the more partners a woman has had, the more likely the marriage is to fail, source:https://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html Hi Stephan, I dont see where you think I was insulting others. Its about having standards that say, as a man, if Im going to marry and commit my life to someone, its going to be someone with the self-respect and characterto have not been a whore. Is a depressed life worth living. Im not the same person now, and I know what I did is wrong, so obviously, there should be no consequences for my past behavior. Also in your other comment you gave the example of the rapist and that is a great way to make your point, but lets flip this. Later they got their act together, graduated high school, and got their masters degree. I just feel that the issues are deeper than sex or promiscuity. So, somebody who has raped a person years agoshouldnt have that counted againstthem because that isnt who they really are now? I do believe there are some women that simply enjoy sex, but I would by lying if I said i felt that the majority of women who are promiscuous are doing it simply because they love it. I totally agree with the double standards. your such a b.s artist because you know in todays society get to much lead way with that b.s. By his personality it doesn seem that he is a virgin either. It benefits to see the bigger picture and all angles of a situation. I found out she was very open about hooking up and put herself on "hook-up" websites where she could trade nude pictures with random men who just were looking for flings. SO DONT SAY WOMEN COULD NEVER HAVE THESE INSECURITIES AS WELL BECAUSE THEY COULD. Is she in to me or just a touchy best friend? N get money. In this life, moral responsibility will offer you far, far more than even being able to regain what you may have lost, even following reconciliation. Sleeping with a lot of people says something about ones character. I am trying to be forgiving which is why this article was very validating and informative. Some of the best sex you may have is one that includes arousal and anxiety. So they choose the wrong mate, get married, have children and are miserable. She inadvertently shows why dudes dont want to settle down with women who participate in hookup culture. older, as to how many people they have had sex with, I say that how old they Men are sure as hell trying to do it now! Wouldnt you want You live and you learn and then hopefully you do better, so if someone has slept with 99 different people, that doesnt mean there doesnt come a point in their lives where they are ready to settle and be in a committed relationship with just one. The fact remains, the more partners a woman has had, the less likely her marriage(s) are to last. This is because men are at low risk they can walk away, and if the woman becomes pregnant she is the one who bears 9 months of pregnancy plus childbirth and the resulting minimum 5 years of childrearing. Instagram. Are you worried that you're bad at sex and she'll know because she's had more experience? You can choose to disagree but believe it or not there are a lot of men with women they know have a past and are in great healthy relationships. Lil Joe Norman. Think about it, no guy whos screwed dozens of women is going to care if the women he finally settles down with has been with a heap of guys in her past, if he does then hes basically a hypocrite anyway. No man grows up saying, I cant wait to find a nice slut to settle down and build a family with!!. And for the women who cry out that the number of partners doesnt matter, then why not just be honest. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Chances are that if this is your question then you have not read the whole article. First, I asked her what she thought. Do me a favor and email me this question to advice@stephanspeaks.com Im having all advice questions directed there. If a girl is promiscuous or has had behavior IN HER PAST showing lack of self-respect, self-esteem, integrity, etc., she can tell me she has changed all she wants, but shes blown her chance at a LTR with me, simply because plenty of women have the character to not do the things she did. With that said, dont expect all these women to reveal this information. This function is innate to humans and does not become desensitized. Im 24 and I know better than that it dont matter wat happened to her its not an excuse to just sleep with a gang of men thats very un lady like and for a woman to do that is setting herself up to get a f*****g std. Nothing has ever been more important than that. I love reading your articles, please keep them coming. It shapes us. Shame on you all. Nothing wrong with that. Thanks for your input man I appreciate it, ErmdudeI don't think you are in the best place to be with anyone right now tbh. Always feel free to express yourself on my blog because even in disagreement the discussion can be good and productive. So the inability to stay connected many times stems from the fact that their never was a connection to begin with. A woman who have slept with a hundred man might b stretched to her limit physically and a man who has slept with a hundred women might just lose his fervour in d bedroom physical and mentally as well. A) Two long-term sex partners, had sex a total of 1000 times. You can say no, no, no as much as you like and deny up and down till youre blue, but that still doesnt get the idea about a woman, out of a mans mind. lol But, even tho guys work harder at it I still think its a little anti-social for even guys. If shes cheated on 8 of her previous boyfriends then Im sorry but I think its valid to question her loyalty. I on the other hand would reply no. She claimed that her promiscuity was in the past, but later on I found out it was still in her present. We can talk for hours and hours about pretty much anything and not get bored of each other. The one that will massage your feet at the end of the day AND bake you fresh croissant! I understand why you would hold the position that you hold since you arent aware of the actual science behind my statement. on the lookout for new sex partners, because they dont value physical severely damage your relationship and possibly end it; trust is very important. Lastly all should value themselves because at the end of the day it is best for all to wait (though many of us struggle with it), so dont just put that on women. You can love sex without being a slut. Well life just got a whole lot better for you, because you've found what we all look . Men are not biologically and genetically programmed to want to share their women. Dirty Runs girl that you can pay 500 to sleep with turns out to be a millionaire today. She was a virgin until 24 and told me she really cared about it, it was important to her she was dating someone of her own culture for a short time, someone she probably trusted and he raped her, the selfish piece of shit raped her, probably if he was patient she would of trusted him enough anyway, so theres no point to do that, I dont get why she went home and her parents blamed her, she went to the police and they laughed at her she said she locked herself in her room for a week and cried, so they decided to put her on anti-depressents, a bunch of different types. Should I apply for accomodation now or later? Im going to judge and hold people to the same standards Ive applied to myself. I reinforced that sex was a major responsibility, must be done with responsibility, and that I definitely preferred that she would wait until she was marriedbut that if something changedprotection was a must! Or would you rather have a car thats bee driven by a lot of different people. Not truly. I mean, come on, theres more to life than sex, right? If I trusted someone and it came up, I Society many times likes to just default to the answer on the surface, rather than go deeper to fully understand what truly is causing a problem or disconnect. Think about this. At the end of the day we all have to decide what is most important. (-_-)/. but not an automatic deal-breaker. However, there are exceptions to every rule. Does that past lover (so to speak) affect her current situation? I never wanted her run through thats why i tackled her youngps shes 20 and im 20..and im a virgin. Marriage can't be only about sex. So I have to make the decision..do I want her after the wear and tear of 200 men?? I told her that unless she knew those particular girls background, she really had no basis to formulate a judgment. 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